There have been many reports about how the economic downturn is leading to more divorces. In good times, money can be an easy band aid to gloss over toxic relationship issues, but in bad times, people cannot afford distractions and fights start to escalate at home.

While a break up is the best solution for a failed marriage, what happens when you can’t sell the house during a time the real estate market is plunging to new lows? You live together anyway until the house is sold or you have enough to move out.

Divorcing couples are finding it harder to move on. Most people would not recommend living with an ex after breaking up, but if you have to, what can you do for yourself in such a difficult situation?

Lay down some rules. Be it from who takes care of the grocery bill to dating other people, you should try to make clear what your boundaries are. If you choose not to see other people, stick to it.

Be respectful. Forcing yourself to be civil to each could help you realize a more collaborative style of divorce and it could be very well end up being less emotional and painful.

Don’t fall for your ex. Many would agree that when things at home seem nice, it almost feels like you’re back together as a couple again. You would experience conflicting emotions and may even reconsider the divorce. Good for you if it helps your relationship but be aware of why you chose to break up in the first place.

Remain positive. The transition period can be harrowing for some and all you can do is hold on to your sanity. Bumping into each other in the hallway or changing your schedule just to avoid your ex can cause daily tension. There is no real solution except to keep to your side of the house but be a civil housemate. Keep positive and try your best not to let the stress grind you down.

Stop the paranoia. While you are in situation where you are stuck together physically, the only other way to carve out boundaries would be in the mind. Your ex is no longer yours, so try not to be paranoid or obsess over whether he or she is dating again.

Think of Plan B. If your house cannot be sold, have you considered other options like moving back with your parents, or living with a friend, or renting a cheap apartment? Those are obvious first choices in the beginning but you should work towards finding an alternative living solution even if you have decided to live together until the property is sold. There is a price to pay for physical space but it can be worth it for mental relief if things are unbearable.

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